Perfectionism can be a great motivator–but what happens when it starts to have a negative impact on important areas of your life, like your productivity, relationships, physical and psychological health or your career?
I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Marla Enhelder where we uncovered the traits, symptoms and causes of perfectionism. We examined the situations where perfectionism can actually hurt your productivity.
First, take the Quiz to discover if you’re a perfectionist.
Then listen to the podcast as we share some tips to break free of the perfectionist traits and tendencies that could be undermining your productivity and your success.
There’s a difference between striving for excellence that can fuel your productivity and striving for perfection that can lead to procrastination or the inability to get things done.
Perfectionism, when taken to the extreme can have a harmful impact on your motivation, your productivity, your relationships and your well being.
If you’re a perfectionist and it’s getting in the way of your productivity, or other areas of your life, what can you do?
Follow these 6 steps to ease the grip perfectionism has on you:
1. Notice what you think about. Remember, you control your thoughts. Train your mind to think in a more positive and supportive manner rather than beating yourself up over every little mistake you make.
2. Notice what you tell yourself–Is it mostly positive or negative? If it’s mostly negative, then start to engage in more positive self-talk. Make sure you put a support system in place to reinforce this.
Some key phrases you can say to yourself when you begin to engage in self-defeating thoughts are: There are no mistakes, only lessons. What can I learn from this experience? What can I do that’s within my control to make this situation better?
Post some positive phrases or affirmations in a place where you can see them and remind yourself about what you’re striving to accomplish. It’s not always the destination
3. Notice what you believe about yourself. Are your beliefs creating supportive or self-defeating habits? Are your beliefs true or are they just beliefs? Question whether or not the negative beliefs that are holding you back are really true.
When you start to notice yourself turning to non-supportive thoughts, negative self-talk, unsupportive beliefs or habits, just stop for a moment and take a deep breath. Instead, turn your attention to what you want to accomplish that’s within your control—your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and actions. This will interrupt the pattern of negativity and non-supportive perfectionism and will give you a moment to move in a more positive realistic direction.
4. Any change can take time. Be patient with yourself and start with small steps. Congratulate yourself for the effort you make in achieving your accomplishments through the things you control rather than focusing on the results of others. The results you get are the consequence of things you do that are within your control.
5. Forgive yourself and others. There are no re-dos in life. You can’t control the events of the past, but you can control what you learn from your experiences and how you choose to spend your time in the present.
6. If you’re always facing backward, you can’t possibly move forward. So let go of your past. Turn your focus toward your goals and remember, there are many ways to get to the same destination.
Remember, it’s not how much time you spend on something that matters.
What really matters is how you spend the time you have.
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